Audiobooks and MacOS Catalina

Apple seems to dislike us storing things anywhere other than the internal drive, made clear by Catalina giving no choice other than to keep audiobooks and ebooks on there and not on an external drive. That’s fine if you’ve only bought five audiobooks in a decade – but when you’ve got gigabytes and even terabytes, … Read moreAudiobooks and MacOS Catalina

The problem with ‘woke’ and ‘unwoke’

There’s a tendency I’ve noticed among thinking millennials to divide people into the ‘woke’ and ‘not woke’. They need to think some more. I’ve been told more than once I’m woke, complimented because usually, apparently, you don’t get many over 40 who are. Yes. Really.  First, I think those thinking millennials need to do more … Read moreThe problem with ‘woke’ and ‘unwoke’

Moving: not just a physical change but a psychological one as well

Woke early and got to thinking, often not the best thing for me but hey. Everyone says moving is one of the most stressful things you can do, coming second only to bereavement; also, that it’s harsh on kids and, after a brief adventurous window for some people in their twenties, gets more traumatic as … Read moreMoving: not just a physical change but a psychological one as well

Stories of Dad I-V

Bernard, father of Andrew

Remembering my father today. The sacrifices he and millions of others made, and their bravery. I remember some of the terrible truths of WW2 as told to me by my dad, things you won’t find in the history books, stories of what it was really like, which was nothing like the movies and video games. … Read moreStories of Dad I-V

Social media paints a false picture

Tweets and Facebook comments present opinions without context, totally distorted. When you read them, they can make you feel you’re not alone in your feelings and opinions. You can be connected to others who have the same interests or illnesses and disabilities. All this can be good, when you’re talking about loneliness and depression, illnesses … Read moreSocial media paints a false picture

Sex, dating, disability

Sex and dating I covered in my book on living with fibromyalgia precisely because sex and disability are not often discussed. Generally, within my own gay community, the attitude to notions of disability and sickness are appalling. The image to maintain, buoyed up by gay media, is one of unsustainable and, for most, unattainable physical … Read moreSex, dating, disability

Caring for a loved one with delirium: raw truths

Imagine, if you will, a large battery that, when exposed to certain environmental factors, discharges rapidly until there’s no energy left in it. That’s me. One hour in the presence of my mother when her delirium is high, when every word spoken is nonsense and paranoia, with my heart bleeding at seeing her suffering, and … Read moreCaring for a loved one with delirium: raw truths

Extremists

Extremists are trying really, really, really hard to drag this country backwards through time. We have to fight to go forwards. The genie of hatred won’t go back in its lamp easily or quickly. When you encounter the ‘reasonable racist’ believing every word of the propaganda he spouts, his entire life built on fictions, it’s … Read moreExtremists

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