Do your research to better help those you love with dementia 

It’s important, I believe, to do your research when family or friends develop any form of dementia. It helps you to understand, to be of real help and to prepare, as best anyone can, for the later stages. It’s said that ignorance is bliss, and you certainly come upon facts that upset you, but in … Read moreDo your research to better help those you love with dementia 

The story of your life

The story of your life is uniquely yours. Nobody else has lived, nor will ever live, the same life as you. Would you, whether you consider yourself a writer or not, consider penning your autobiography? It seems a great many people do indeed put pen to paper and fingers to keys, confessing all, often but … Read moreThe story of your life

Caring for the elderly: we can, and must, do better 

I have had a very busy week. I am happy to say a care home was found for both my parents. Within 24 hours of the home saying yes, they were both out of hospital and on their way to a room they will share and have filled with personal items rather than the blank, … Read moreCaring for the elderly: we can, and must, do better 

Gay lifestyle aspirational bollocks

Just been reading a gay lifestyle magazine called WINQ. I say ‘gay lifestyle’ but it certainly isn’t my lifestyle. The impressions received from reading it are that you can’t even entertain the idea of marrying another man unless you are able and happy to pay £40 for a box of whisky-infused toothpicks, £350 for a … Read moreGay lifestyle aspirational bollocks

Poem // He Stroked His Mother’s Hair

He stroked his mother’s hair as she lay on the bed, lost in a fiction, sensate world of danger, phobias and betrayals. She calmed and then he said, for all the love you gave to me, I give it back to you in full but my debt to you can never be repaid for you … Read morePoem // He Stroked His Mother’s Hair

Single grey-and-white cat seeks other for nocturnal duets

My cat Sylvia has taken to singing the song of her people every night when I go to bed, as soon as I turn out the lights. She’s been doing it for a few weeks now. She’s never done it before. If I didn’t know Sylvia was neutered three years ago, I’d think she was … Read moreSingle grey-and-white cat seeks other for nocturnal duets

How to be enriched rather than enraged 

I used to be capable of debating subjects indefinitely, ‘sticking to my guns’ (that phrasing, I now realise, familiar to all, clearly defines debate as argument as combat). It was hugely important to me to ‘win’ and ‘conquer’, especially in matters with some relation to morality and conscience. This isn’t a man thing; I’ve met … Read moreHow to be enriched rather than enraged 

Poem // Perfectly Imperfect

When first he set eyes upon you, you were perfect; a warm light, drawing him inside, no moth to a flame analogy – for no one could ever be destroyed by entering the citadel of you, determinedly prising a lock open, a way into your heart, though fires rage there, it is true, deep below … Read morePoem // Perfectly Imperfect

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